The Coconut Bird

My Go-To Dunkin Order (Even When I Don’t Need the Caffeine)

By Robin April 29, 2026UncategorizedNo Comments

There’s something that instantly makes my day better, and no, it’s not a green juice or a perfectly balanced protein bowl. It’s my Dunkin’ iced coffee. Decaf. Almond milk. Four Splenda. I…

🌧️ When the Rain Came: Oʻahu’s Historic Flooding and the Heart of Our ʻOhana

By Robin March 26, 2026Uncategorized

Friends, ohana, island lovers — if you’ve been on the ground here in Hawaiʻi these past few weeks, you’ve felt it. The skies opened in ways most of us haven’t seen in…

When the Spark Doesn’t Show Up

By Robin March 10, 2026Changes, Divorce and heartache, Love

I went on a date recently. It was a first date. I had high hopes. They were quickly deflated. No sparks and no connection, at all. There’s a quiet kind…

Completely Unimportant Things That Have Improved My Life Dramatically

By Robin February 25, 2026Changes, Divorce and heartache, Love, Self Care, Skin care and beauty

(a highly scientific list) No one tells you that happiness is mostly made of tiny, ridiculous upgrades. Completely Unimportant Things That Have Improved My Life Dramatically are worthy of a…

Things That Feel Like Home Lately

By Robin January 20, 2026Changes, Divorce and heartache, Love, Memories, Self Care

Home is not always a physical place Lately, home hasn’t been a place so much as a feeling. It shows up quietly. Unexpectedly. Usually when I’m not looking for it.…

Disappointed, Not Heartbroken: What Happens When a Man Can’t Match Your Energy

By Robin December 2, 2025Love, Self Care

I had this short, bright little romance recently — the kind that comes in like warm light through a window and makes you think, “Huh. Maybe this could actually become…

🌴 Leaning Into My Feminine Energy

By Robin November 18, 2025Changes, Love, Self Care

photo Lately, I’ve been learning how to slow down and lean into my feminine energy. Not in the “cancel everything and hide under a blanket” way, but in a way…

It’s Weird, But It’s Good

By Robin November 3, 2025Changes, Divorce and heartache, Love1 Comment

There’s a new chapter fluttering in the pages of my Coconut Bird story — one I didn’t quite see coming. It’s funny how life sneaks up on you when you’re…

Building My Fun TikTok Account: Sharing Life, Laughs, and Single Woman Insights

By Robin August 26, 2025Changes, Divorce and heartache, Self Care, Skin care and beauty, Work1 Comment

If you know me from The Coconut Bird, you already know I love creating spaces that feel fun, light, and a little bit cheeky. Recently, I decided to bring that energy to TikTok — and it’s quickly becoming one of my favorite creative outlets.

How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty — My Year of Boundaries at 58

By Robin August 13, 2025Changes, Self Care1 Comment

I just turned 58, and this year I’m giving myself the best gift ever: the freedom to say “no” without feeling guilty — no excuses, no lengthy explanations, no overthinking

Bouncing Back from the Slump: Skincare & Comfy Vibes to Lift My Spirits! 🌴✨

By Robin April 14, 2025Self Care, Skin care and beauty, Uncategorized, Work1 Comment

Hey Coconut Bird Fam! 🥥🌸 Okay, real talk: we all go through those rough patches, right? Lately, I’ve been dealing with some job loss slump (yup, that’s life sometimes!), but…

Main Character Energy

By Robin March 18, 2025Divorce and heartache, Love, Self Care1 Comment

What does Romanticize mean The happiness from Romanticizing Your Life: How to Make Every Day Feel Like a Dream Romanticizing your life and how to make it feel like a…

Scrub-a-Dub-Dub, Meet Your New Shower BFF: Spongelle!

By Robin March 3, 2025Self Care, Skin care and beauty

Scrub-a-Dub-Dub, Meet Your New Shower BFF: Spongellé! Listen up, my fellow shower connoisseurs! If you’re still fumbling around with a loofah that looks like it’s seen better days (let’s be…

Looking to make the move to Hawaii?

By Robin February 17, 2025Changes, Divorce and heartache, Self Care1 Comment

The Best Buildings to Live in Honolulu for Single Women Over 50 Looking to make the move to Hawaii? So,you’re single, fabulous, and over 50, and you’re thinking of making…

Going Back to My Maiden Name and Back to Myself

By Robin January 27, 2025Changes, Divorce and heartache, Love, Self Care

Changing my name back to my maiden name was not an easy decision. It feels good to start this journey for myself.

The Benefits of Sea Moss Gel for Health

By Robin January 13, 2025Self Care, Skin care and beauty, Uncategorized

Sea moss has been a new daily routine and i love how it makes me feel.

A new job after 10 years

By Robin November 14, 2024Changes, Work

Hello, friends! Life brings changes, that's for sure. It was time to shake up my life a bit, and so I did . I'm excited to share some updates about…

My Side Hustle – but it’s important

By Robin July 2, 2024Changes, Work

You may or may not know that for the past 4 years I have had my own Review Management company. I get asked what in the world I do so…

Aloha from My Island Office- Life in Hawaii

By Robin March 7, 2024Love, Uncategorized

Hey there, fellow island souls! Life in Hawaii is a lot like catching waves – wild, unpredictable, and full of surprises. Let's dive into the sun-soaked mishmash of working remotely…

My Little Dog

By Robin June 16, 2023Love, Memories

My little dog Oliver deserves a little post of his own. Although small, like him, I needed to added a bit about him because he makes living my best life,…

Have a little PRIDE

By Robin June 1, 2023Love, Self Care

Why Pride Why Pride? What are the issues? LGBT pride (also known as gay pride or simply pride) is the promotion of the self- affirmation, dignity, equality and increased visibility of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people as a social group.…

Friday Night Drinks and Dresses

By Robin May 26, 2023Memories, Self Care

Each Friday Night my friend Lorraine and I start off the weekend with what we call " D&D". NOT Dungeons and Dragons. This is Dresses and Drinks. It is a…

The ways I have changed since my divorce

By Robin May 19, 2023Divorce and heartache, Love, Uncategorized2 Comments

I like who I am. Years ago, in my 20's, 30's and 40's I was not able to say that. First of all, I really had no idea who I…

Selling my things for the big move to Hawaii

By Robin May 8, 2023Divorce and heartache, Memories, Self Care1 Comment

Selling my car was so easy. I used Carvana and they made it so simple. The price is set, no back and forth which I loved. They have you answer…

I love your hair!

By Robin April 29, 2023Self Care, Skin care and beauty

I love your hair! Almost on a daily basis,someone says this to me. I get stopped all the time for people to ask me about my cut and color (…

Tan Is My Happy Color

By Robin April 21, 2023Self Care, Skin care and beauty

Tan is my happy color. I just feel much better when I am tan. With tanning comes risk. I have not always been a sunscreen user. Until very recently, I…

Living a Dream Life That Is Fit For You

By Robin April 10, 2023Self Care1 Comment

Make your dream your actual life What does Living a dream life look like to you? What does living your dream life look like to you? To some people it…

Nuuly is my new obsession

By Robin April 8, 2023Clothes, Self Care

Rent your wardrobe from Anthropologie, Free People and other popular brands for only $88 a month. Ask yourself, is this is too good to be true? Stop romanticizing the grind…

Sunscreen is so important wear your sunscreen

By Robin April 4, 2023Self Care, Skin care and beauty9 Comments

Why do we need skin protection on our face? Sun protection is so important for all skin but especially for mature skin over 50. Wearing a UV protectant is vital.…

For the love of skin care

By Robin March 28, 2023Self Care, Skin care and beauty3 Comments

https://amzn.to/3KapAQg Skin care was my first love. The process of finding products, the using products and the results of the products. It is all enjoyable to me. Obviously ,Taking care…

I Made my Dream Life My Actual Life

By Ficklins March 22, 2023Self Care1 Comment

You are allowed to have the life you dream of Let's talk about my move to Hawaii and what it is all about. If you are new here, I am…

Missing people and the feelings that childhood brings

By Ficklins March 22, 2023Memories

It is always so surprising to me that a simple song can come on Spotify and I feel so many feelings. Missing people from childhood can hit hard.Rocky Mountain High…

Long Lost Blog

By Ficklins March 19, 2023Self Care

Well I found my blog after so long. SO much has changed. I moved to Hawaii. I am living the dream. Well...my dream. Living in Hawaii is amazing.I have a…

Life changes and stays the same

By Ficklins March 7, 2019Divorce and heartache

I fell in love..again. This past Summer, I reconnected with someone from my past. He was the last person I dated before dating my ex-husband. I will call him…

Life and Stuff

By Ficklins October 16, 2015Memories

So as always, this will be a post of ramblings. It has been close to a year since I last posted. A year with so many changes. I became a…

The ramblling of my thoughts

By Ficklins March 21, 2014Divorce and heartache

I do a lot of thinking...I wish I didn't. I was driving today and had random thoughts running through my head. I wondered why it is my ex-husband dislikes me…